Trauma is quite literally a killer.
It doesn’t stalk people with weapons in hand and take lives overtly but it kills people nonetheless.
It saps their will to live, their creativity, their strength, and their joy from life.
I am sure you know that because you either have some trauma in your life or know someone that has.
Helping people past the terror of trauma was the driver for me creating the Reboot, Repair, Rebirth series and I am so excited that you are part of my tribe.
I would love to share with you one of five tips.
Tip 1 Are you in danger?
Often those who suffer from trauma have become so used to it, that they don’t realize the level of their danger…
Here are some questions that will help you assess your level of danger.
Is there regular substance abuse around you?
Is there mental illness in the house without treatment?
Are you witnessing violence?
Are you experiencing violence on a frequent basis?
Are you having interrupted sleep because or worry or fear?
Do you have a desire to change your life? Are you willing to focus on your healing?
We all have bad days sometimes and sometimes our life doesn’t go, as we want. But for those with a history of trauma or experiencing trauma, it is over the line.
If you have a ‘yes’ answer to many of the questions above, you are likely at high risk and should reach out to talk to someone.
Is there someone at school, or at church or in the neighborhood you can talk to? Is there a nurse or counselor at school who you can talk to?
Fear of reaching out and talking is the #1 cause of trauma going undetected and unreported.
It is also extremely important to reach out in an emergency. An emergency is any situation in which you feel you are in serious danger of being seriously harmed by someone, killing yourself or harming anyone else.
An emergency is also any other experience of extreme symptoms for which you need immediate help (mental breakdown, alcohol or drug intoxication or withdrawal)
In your safety plan you should have the name and phone number of a person whom you trust or call the HopeLine at 1-877-235-4525.
If you cannot reach anyone, call 911 or go to your nearest hospital emergency room.
Calculate your Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) score. Click here to calculate your score. If it is 4 or more, there may be health consequences. A score of 6 or more can decrease your life expectancy by 20 years. Talk to your doctor. There are resources for you.
If you want more help with freeing yourself from toxic substances, coping with stress, restoring your self-esteem, protecting yourself from destructive people and situations or building healthy relationships then ask for help, take good care of your body, set a boundary in relationships and create meaning.
More details on how to get your life back will be in my upcoming Book and Course “Reboot Repair Rebirth”.
Please note: If you are not quite ready for healing, don’t despair. Keep reading, keep learning and think about the benefits of changing vs. the cons of changing. You are not alone. Talk to your health care provider and come back when you are ready. We will be here when you are ready. We love you and stay safe. Start with your safety plan today.